Ours was an arranged marriage.
Having been married for quite some time now, I can say that surviving an
arranged marriage is like preparing kheer – tastes best when cooked with
patience on slow flame. Try rushing into things and you will get a kheer with
burnt smell that just doesn’t go away.
Love, has its own language. While
some people go all mushy to express their feelings for their beloved, there are
few like Mr. Hubby and I, who discover a new shade of love by sharing small
joys and sorrows of our everyday life.
Shortly after our marriage, Mr.
Hubby and I planned a trek to the valley of flowers in Uttarakhand. Mr. Hubby
being a perfect fitness freak was oozing with enthusiasm that matched my fear
for intense physical activities. For the lazy me who has grown up on aloo
paranthas smeared with butter and never befriended a workout, any physical
activity that makes me wake up early or get that sweat dripping is a complete
no. So, workouts and I often prefer separate paths. But when Mr. Hubby proposed
the trek, the excitement in his eyes prompted me to play the supportive wife in
our newly started married life.
Everything was rosy till the time
we reached the base camp. However, the moment we began the trek, the thorns
began to surface from the rosy picture. Like a typical newly married lady, I
was all style and vanity and preferred to carry a small sling bag rather than
carrying a heavy rucksack with essential items. I was scared at the thought of
trekking and thought it better to carry minimal weight; and in that effort, I
even missed the bare essential – a bottle of water. We thought once we complete
the trek, we would get some water. But few passersby told us there was no shop
up there and we had been foolish enough to miss something as important as
water!
For someone who had never even
participated in a race in school, walking uphill on the high altitude (approx
3600 meters above the sea level) without food or water was becoming torturous.
I would stop and start panting after every ten steps due to lack of Oxygen at
high altitude. My knees and chest cried with pain and the heartbeat was like a
high decibel drum thumping fast. For almost half the trek, Mr. Hubby was at his
supportive best and even kept me busy in conversations to divert my mind.
However, once he realised we were way behind our schedule, his patience began
to give up. We could see many people on their way back after spotting some
beautiful and exotic flowers the valley offers. To add fuel to the fire, they
told we better hurry up as the park closes by 5.30pm and it was already noon.
My oh so patient hubby slowly
began to lose patience. I tried my best to brace up, but the lungs wouldn’t
just support. Finally I decided the trek was beyond me and I better give up. I
asked Mr. Hubby to complete the trek and return while I would wait at the same
place.
As if I had blown the whistle of
a pressure cooker, Mr. Hubby became furious. “You have spoiled my holiday. If
you didn’t have the stamina or the courage you should have told me!” I stood
there stiff and silent with my eyes closed as he walked away.
Sometimes anger prompts us to do
things that simple motivation cant. Mr. Hubby’s words pierced me and after
sometime, I too decided I would complete the trek and would prove him wrong.
I had begun walking for five
minutes when a man from the opposite side stopped me. “Are you Shaivi?” he
asked. “Y..Yeah...” I said, surprised. “Your hubby met me on the way and has
left a message for you. He has asked me to tell you the trek isn’t tough, you
will be able to manage, just keep walking. He is waiting for you ahead. Come
on”. He said with a smile and went away.
“Oh after all that drama, someone
is pretending to be romantic and caring?” I said to myself.
As I walked, I was in for even
more pleasant surprises. Apparently, Mr. Hubby had asked every person he met on
the way to tell me not to give up; that he believed in me and was waiting for
me ahead. So every person on his way back was smiling and passing on the
message to me. Some girls even told me “how cute, he is so caring”.
My fatigue evaporated with every
message I got and I continued to walk. With every person telling me I was just
near completion and Mr. Hubby was waiting ahead, the trek no longer seemed like
a tough task. The energy of Love kept me going. I was beginning to feel sorry
for Mr. Hubby. I had disappointed him and here he was trying to motivate me by
asking every single person he met to pass on the message to me.
After a kilometre, I found myself
surrounded by a beautiful landscape filed with beautiful flowers. I could see
Mr. Hubby waiting at a distance. As he saw me, his face brightened up with a
smile and he stretched his arms true Bollywood style. My steps became faster and
soon I was in his arms – a perfect scene from those Yash Chopra movies.
“I am sorry I got angry baby” he
said. “No dear, I am sorry, you tried so much to motivate me, I should have
stretched myself more.”, I said. “Hey, did you get my message? I asked few
people” he said. “Few?” I interrupted him. “Every single person on his way back
was like, are you Shaivi? Your hubby is waiting for you ahead. The trek isn’t
tough and you are just there…” Mr. Hubby was now blushing. “Oh I wondered if
they would pass on the message, so I told every person I met…I wanted to be
together with you in this beauty. It would have been incomplete without me
holding my wife’s hands” he said.
I was all melting now. I just
blushed and hugged him tight as he whispered into my ears, “you make this all
seem so perfect!”
Amidst the hesitation and the
shyness of an arranged marriage, we had discovered our bond of love…for us,
this day was our Platinum Day of Love!
With each sweet n sour moment we
have shared in this togetherness called Love, I can say our Love is just like
Platinum – precious, pure and everlasting!
This post has been written for
the Platinum Day of Love contest by Indiblogger.
Lovely post...and the pictures of the place are beautiful as well..:)
ReplyDeleteAll the best with the contest Ma'am...:D
So cute! Within 5 minutes he realised he had been too harsh.. that's true love!
ReplyDeleteWonderful! Loved it...all the best!
ReplyDeleteLovely Shaivi dear! :) All the best!
ReplyDeleteNice post Shaivi. Nice combo pack of romance and travel :) All the best for the contest !!
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Very beautiful experience.
ReplyDeleteThis would be a beautiful feeling ... all the best for the contest !!!
ReplyDeletesweet and lovely experience. All the best dear :)
ReplyDeleteAww. I can recognise with you. My boyfriend does all that and I am just like oh god let's just stay in bed all day! Hahaha. He knows me and just holds my hand and keeps talking to me throughout.. :)
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